Beauté intérieure – 1ère partie

Je vous parle de l’importance de la beauté des intérieurs dans lesquels nous pénétrons. Comment se sentir comblé chaque jour en franchissant la porte de sa maison, de son lieu de travail ou de son institut préféré.

La beauté que nous avons et ressentons à l’intérieur est source de bien-être et d’épanouissement. Elle mérite qu’on la cultive pour ensuite la transmettre à chaque personne que l’on croise, à chaque lieu où l’on s’attarde, à chaque objet que l’on créé ou que l’on mette en scène.

Personnellement, je me sens plus sereine et heureuse lorsque mon paysage intérieur est en symbiose avec celui qui m’entoure. C’est pourquoi il est si important pour moi que mon « home-sweet-home » corresponde à l’esthétique et à l’énergie qui m’habitent. La philosophie de Marie Kondo et la méthode de Clarity Home Detox m’ont accompagnées ce sur ce chemin bienfaisant.

Et puisque nous passons souvent plus de temps sur notre lieu de travail qu’à la maison, cela s’applique aussi à l’environnement professionnel. Cette réflexion est au cœur de la démarche créative de Forever. Comment créer un lieu qui reflète la philosophie d’une entreprise, qui soit juste, qui porte les mêmes messages que ceux qui y travaillent. Forever c’est avant tout l’expression de « la beauté dans tous ses états », liée à une technologie avant-gardiste, une vision lumineuse et futuriste de l’esthétique, une touche artistique et un rêve en constante évolution.

Forever Institut et Boutique sont devenus les écrins de notre savoir-faire grâce aux artistes et architectes talentueux qui ont adhéré à notre vision. Tout ce qu’il faut de transparence, une rivière de lumière, des couleurs fortes et douces à la fois, et beaucoup d’espace et de murs blancs où ont trouvé place nombreuses œuvres d’autres artistes contemporains.

Toute notre équipe se construit chaque jour dans ces lieux d’exception, lieux uniques, à notre image, où règne naturellement une harmonie, et qui font ressortir le meilleur de nous-mêmes pour l’offrir à tous ceux qui viennent nous consulter pour des soins.

Nous vous attendons dès demain pour poursuivre ce beau partage !

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La beauté des préliminaires, la force de la poésie.

Je ne sais pas vous, mais moi j’adore les préliminaires. « Le commencement : on est à l’origine de quelque chose. L’attente : le principal est encore à venir. La préparation : en vue de ce qui est à accomplir. La fondation : sur laquelle la suite va s’édifier. Le jeu : on passera ensuite aux choses sérieuses. L’exploration : le temps des décisions viendra après. L’ébauche : de ce qui prendra une forme définitive. »

Voici les mots décrivant l’exposition Préliminaires montrée à la Villa Dutoit en mars dernier. Je suis tombée sous le charme d’une pièce en particulier, réunissant le travail de 2 artistes : Patricia Terrapon Leguizamon et Barbara Polla. L’une créant des sculptures de seins, l’autre un poème érotique qui retranscrit parfaitement selon moi la beauté des préliminaires (Just before Love, à lire ci-dessous et à retrouver dans le New River Press Yearbook 2019).

Les préliminaires poussent à l’imagination et à la curiosité. Il y a d’infinies possibilités de désirs et de jeux, de manières de découvrir son intimité et d’explorer son corps ainsi que celui de l’autre.

Les préliminaires sont romantiques. Ils obligent à prendre le temps. Ils font sortir des stéréotypes répétitifs et ennuyants qu’on retrouve partout en image dans notre société.

Les préliminaires offrent un moment de liberté. Un temps où on ose exprimer sa sexualité et tester différents désirs sans trop les avouer juste pour voir la réaction de l’autre, juste pour savoir si on peut continuer dans cette direction ou non. Si c’est non, on oublie et on passe à autre chose, sans jugement.

Les préliminaires c’est différent pour chacun et à chaque instant. Ils peuvent être doux, crus, lents, rapides… D’ailleurs dans de prochains blogs je vous parlerai de deux accessoires que j’aime tout particulièrement : la photographie et les sous-vêtements.

Just before Love me donne envie d’écrire des lettres enflammées à mon mari, comme James Joyce le faisait pour Nora Barnacle. La poésie a une force particulière avec laquelle elle arrive à nous faire voyager et à nous stimuler avec ses mots, ses sons et son rythme, d’une manière qu’on peine à recréer dans notre langage de tous les jours.

Bonne lecture !

 

Just Before Love

Just before love
He likes to smoke a joint
Then he looks at me
And wants me to play
With my eyes and my smile
As if I were to go
Far away with another
As if I were to dance

Just before love
He likes to watch girls
While touching his balls
And then he looks at me
At my mouth at my lips
Ajar and wet and pink
Playing with my tongue
And my fingers in my mouth

Just before love
He likes me to sniff
From neck to ass
Along his vertebrae
His axilla and to kiss
And to sniff him all over
As if I were an addict
And needs to feel the need

Just before love
His nipples erect
His hair on his thighs
He likes me to ignore
Just for a while then adore
That he is all erect
Erection everywhere
Now show me your tits

Just before love
He touches himself
And likes me to Watch
And let me know
I can do it myself
You know look at me
You from below
From everlasting snow

Just before love
Lick it all up
You know, there
Deep in the rainforest
And your tongue everywhere
Let me let me let me
Grasp and strangle
And drown in your night

Just before love
Close your eyes close the world
Comes the night comes the sky
Come, come baby come
Then leave me alone
Alone with myself
Unwillingly and slow
Waiting for death

And after love
Let me let me let me

… and dance again

 

Barbara Polla

How to blow dry your hair and other tips from Tatum Neill

I was born into a skin family, and married into a hair family. I was born into a family of all sisters, and married into a family of mostly brothers. I can’t think of better combinations. This is top of mind today as I am on my way to Chicago for America’s Beauty Show, and will see my brother Tatum on stage doing hair, and deejay (yes, another amazing combination) during his ElevateHair Show on Sunday evening (along with many other amazing artists, including Holly Pistas of Gordon Salons).

I am reminded of the below conversation I had with Tatum early on, picking his brain about the life of a hairstylist. Today, being behind the chair (at Paris Parker Salons) is only part of Tatum’s role. He launched ElevateHair shows and branded tools, teaches haircutting at Neill Corporation, and is the North America Artistic Director, Social Media, for Aveda. And yes, he’s my brother – and yes, he’s cut my hair and my sisters’ hair (Roxane said he might have given her the best short haircut of her life).

AP: What do you recommend clients do to ensure getting the best possible haircut when going to the salon?

TN: Do not use your previous stylist’s language; each hairdresser has their own way of talking about things, so don’t get tied up with the lingo. What I appreciate the most is when people bring a few pictures of what they are looking for. Pictures are worth a thousand words. The tricky part about images is that sometimes the hair has more to do with the styling than with the cut… so always be open to your hairdresser’s recommendations.

AP: As a hairdresser, what are your pet peeves?

TN: Turtle necks and lip gloss. When my clients come in wearing a turtle neck, it’s hard to cleanly get to the hairline, and impedes the cut. And if I need to trim your bangs and you are wearing sticky lip gloss, the hair ends up on your lips and it creates a mess. Of course, like any hairdresser, while I appreciate some direction from my clients, I don’t like it when clients want to direct me too much…

AP: Razor or no razor?

TN: The thing about a razor is that it needs to be new and sharp. Razors dull really quickly, and that is why razor cuts are sometimes bad. Also, it is essential to only use a razor when hair is wet or damp.

AP: Thoughts on at-home product use?

TN: Where do I start… typically, clients have three main concerns for at-home care: moisture, body, and shine. So you usually want a trifecta of products: for curly hair, you need to use a product to bring moisture to the hair, a product to control the curl, and a product to hold the curl; for straight hair, you want to use a product to bring moisture to the hair, a product to add body, and a product to add shine.

The challenge is that nourishing products (ranging from conditioners to masks to oils) will compromise body, so it’s all about balance. The hardest hair type to recommend product for is dry fine hair (think most colored blondes for example…). For that type of hair, a lighter moisturizing agent is essential as otherwise your hair will be nourished, but weighed down. Coarser hair can use thicker moisturizing products of course. It’s also key to show people how much product to actually use. I find that most of my clients will underuse product at home, only using about 1/3rd of the recommended amount.  Regardless of product, however, I always remind my clients that no matter what they put in their hair, hair is like skin; what you put in your body will affect your hair. I hate to say this, but when styling runway models, I can always tell from their hair which ones eat and which ones don’t…

AP: What is something few of your clients know?

TN: While it is generally known that pregnant women have thicker hair, and that once the baby arrives, hair thins out, people don’t usually extrapolate from that to the general fact that hormones affect your hair. Not just during pregnancy… during your cycle, during menopause, etc. And this is true not just for women of course. Men’s hair will be affected by their hormones also.

AP: Any tips about blow drying?

TN: I find that most people blow dry their hair the same way they did as when they were 12, i.e. head upside down, blow air all around, with the end goal being drying the hair. There is not a lot of consciousness about the direction of the hair. When you are upside down, most of the air and heat is focused at the nape of the neck, so you end up bottom heavy in terms of volume. Instead, you want most of the volume on the crown, so you should focus the air and heat there. And remember to always blow dry in the direction of the cuticle, to help seal it (which will give you shine); again, that is harder to do when your head is upside down. Remember also that if your roots are wet yet your ends are dry and smooth, the water will end up moving down the hair shaft from the roots to the ends, which will eliminate that nice dry smoothness. That means you need to make sure your roots are dry first, before drying the ends.

Also, next time you go see your stylist, ask him or her to show you how to hold your blow dryer; most people have never been coached on this, and are trying to figure it out by themselves, and you would be amazed what a difference a slight tilt of the wrist will make! Another typical mistake is not to blow dry your hair completely. The recommendation is to blow dry your hair until it is 100% dry, even if you have curly hair. Until the hair is totally dry, the hydrogen bonds that shape it are not set. Same thing if you are letting your hair air dry: your hair needs to be left alone for as long as possible, until it is 100% dry. If you play with it too much you can cause frizz (because touching it breaks the hydrogen bonds and that is what causes frizz).

My favorite blow dryers are made by Parlux – specifically the Alyon. No one makes a dryer like the Italians… I want a blow dryer that gets really hot and has strong wind velocity, so that heat is evaporating the water, while the wind makes the process faster.

AP: What about flatirons and curling irons?

TN: The most important thing to realize about flatirons is that a professional flatiron needs to go up to 450 degrees to be used during permanent or semi-permanent straightening treatments. At that heat, the hair will be chemically altered. What this means is that for at-home use, you need to make sure that your flatiron has good temperature control. Don’t ever use it about 400 degrees when doing your hair at home. I actually recommend a low to mid 300 temperature range. Hotter in this case is not better. 400+ degrees is for the hair professional only. The concept is the same for curling irons, but it is harder to find a curling iron with temperature control capability. So do the following test, carefully of course: set your tool on a piece of paper; it if scorches it, it’s too hot for your hair.

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The good sugar-fix

What you feed your skin is as important as what you put – or don’t put – on your plate. The secret is craving for the “right” sugars!

We all know now that sugars are bad not only for our teeth and waistline, but also for our skin. Ada recently wrote an article about « AGE », acronym for Advanced Glycation End-products, which are the toxic molecules produced in our cells after we eat sugars, and that denature the precious proteins we are made of (like collagen and elastin).

So to preserve our health and good looks, reducing our intake of sugars is non-negotiable. There is however one friendly sugar, that actually repairs ageing skin. Its name is Hyaluronic Acid. Ha ha! I refer to it as HA, for how HAppy it makes us, for establishing good HAbits, for the HArmony it restores to our face, for how HAndsome it can make us look, or just for « HAve some more »! Yes, we are allowed, and even advised, a new sugar-fix.

Nowadays, HA is used with great success in rejuvenating injection techniques and cosmetic products. According to my experience, the best approach is multi-layering.

Under the skin – as dermal fillers

I’m a fan of my father’s signature Softlift technique. It restores the face volumes that melt away with age, especially in the cheek area. In addition, it stimulates skin cells’ activity, like collagen production.

In the skin – by mesotherapy

Little droplets of HA enter the skin via microneedling. Since HA absorbs 1000 times its molecular weight in water, this technique provides deep and long-lasting hydration to the skin.

On the skin – with dermo-cosmetics

Using serums and creams that contain HA will ensure glow and protection against free radicals. Try our Pigment Lightening Serum, your skin will savour it!

So ladies and gentlemen, the final words are: what you feed your skin is as important as what you put – or don’t put – on your plate. The secret is craving for the “right” sugars!

Prise de parole pour la liberté d’assumer…

On peut ne pas se sentir belle et rester indifférente face à ce sentiment, ou avoir envie d’y remédier. On peut aussi se trouver belle, et avoir sincèrement envie de continuer à se sentir chaque jour encore mieux dans sa peau, plus forte, plus libre et respectée.

Je lis souvent des post sur les réseaux sociaux qui dénigrent les personnes ressentant le besoin de recourir à la médecine ou à la chirurgie esthétique pour se sentir (encore) mieux dans leur peau. Ces commentaires me ramènent toujours à notre conviction de base : la médecine esthétique fait partie d’une philosophie de vie que l’on devrait pouvoir assumer sans avoir peur d’être raillé.

Nous allons tous chez le coiffeur pour entretenir le tonus de nos cheveux ; nous faisons du sport pour nous défouler et nous maintenir en forme ; nous choisissons des habits qui nous mettent en valeur ; nous essayons de manger plus sain pour préserver notre santé. Personne ne porte de jugement là-dessus. En quoi nos rituels de beauté, qu’ils soient cosmétiques ou médicaux, sont-ils différents ? L’écoute et les soins procèdent avant tout de l’amour de l’autre, et de soi… aucun jugement de valeur n’est nécessaire.

Bien entendu, l’addiction et la surconsommation sont néfastes. Mais ils le sont dans tous les domaines, pas uniquement quand il s’agit de beauté. Par ailleurs, la prescription de masse procède de la volonté d’uniformisation ; que ce soit dans un sens – tous les hommes devraient être poilus –, ou dans l’autre – toutes les femmes devraient se satisfaire d’être ridées après la ménopause. Cela relève de la prise de pouvoir du prescripteur et, malheureusement, pas du respect des désirs ou des goûts de l’autre.

Enfin, ces post me font réfléchir à certains mouvements d’affirmation de soi. La puissance de la nouvelle génération tient, à mes yeux, dans leur fabuleuse ouverture d’esprit et le « inclusiveness » de tout un chacun. Pourquoi n’adopterions-nous pas cette attitude face à la beauté ? Car on peut être femme et nature (je pense notamment au mouvement « janu’hairy ») ou homme imberbe et séduisant ; femme ultra-féminine et coquette ou homme « macho »… on peut être femme, homme, transgenre… on peut ne pas se sentir belle et rester indifférente face à ce sentiment, ou avoir envie d’y remédier. On peut aussi se trouver belle, et avoir sincèrement envie de continuer à se sentir chaque jour encore mieux dans sa peau, plus forte, plus libre et respectée.

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I tested laser hair removal

Laser hair removal is one of the first treatments I tried at Forever Institut. I started feeling self-conscious about my body hair around the age of 12. By then I had already set my mind on shaving, since I had had a traumatic experience with waxing. When I was 8 years old, my older sister Cyrille thought it would be fun to wax my legs as one of her “experiments”. It might have been fun for her, but definitely not for me. Thus when the time came to take matters into my own hands, I bought a razor.

Personally, I find shaving to be tedious and repetitive, it is a “to-do” that neither enriches my day nor teaches me anything. It feels like a waste of precious time. That’s one of the reasons I love laser hair removal; once it’s done, it’s that much time I get back for things I actually enjoy. Trust me, these few minutes per day in the shower add up…

My legs, underarms, and bikini have been hairfree and soft for 15 years now. I’m always ready for a last-minute pool party, always feeling my  best. My skin looks much more beautiful because it never shows that shaving “stubble”.

I’ve converted many of my friends to laser hair removal since. Here are the tips I have shared with them:

  • Winter is the perfect season for laser treatments because most of us have lost our summer tan. We have been hiding our arms and legs in sweaters and pants, and our skin has had time to come back to its natural color. This is essential in order to avoid side effects from this laser treatment.
  • Tanned skin is not to be confused with dark skin. If your skin is naturally dark, you can use the Nd:Yag laser for hair removal.
  • Don’t hesitate to use anesthetic cream (Emla), it really makes a difference. I don’t prescribe to the “no pain no gain” philosophy!
  • It takes about 7 to 9 sessions (one session every 6 weeks) for a definitive result but each treatment provides soft and hairfree skin.
  • After a laser treatment, your skin can be a little irritated. Nothing works better than the Alchimie Afterlase body milk to help to soothe that inflammation and restore comfort and softness.

 

Photo: Guillaume Varone

Polar Vortex

This week, I experienced the coldest temperatures I can remember while not happily skiing down a mountain (wearing ski clothes). Zero degrees Fahrenheit, felt like -5 with the wind. Fahrenheit. Not Celsius. I experienced the polar vortex that is embracing the Midwest of the United States this week. I still love you Missouri, and I am grateful this week’s travels didn’t take me to Minnesota (-30 Fahrenheit without wind chill).

This week, I experienced the coldest temperatures I can remember while not happily skiing down a mountain (wearing ski clothes). Zero degrees Fahrenheit, felt like -5 with the wind. Fahrenheit. Not Celsius. I experienced the polar vortex that is embracing the Midwest of the United States this week. I still love you Missouri, and I am grateful this week’s travels didn’t take me to Minnesota (-30 Fahrenheit without wind chill).

Here is what I learned.

  • Arctic temperatures make people kinder. My girlfriend Kirby who lives in Chicago once told me the same thing: “In the freezing temperatures, we all come together. It’s like a bonding experience.” I guess everyone is suffering so much from the cold, we all decide to be nicer because we realize everyone else is also suffering so much from the cold.
  • Floor to ceiling windows are lovely. Except during a polar vortex. My hotel room could not get warm no matter the setting on the thermostat.
  • Gloves were my most prized possession this week. Along with the travel size of our Dry skin balm. Freezing hands are red, shriveled, old-looking, not attractive.
  • On that note, I need to invest in a pair of touchscreen gloves. My fingers almost froze while trying to text outside.
  • My lips looked as shriveled as my hands. I use Aveda Lip Saver and Elizabeth Arden Eight Hour Cream on a regular basis, but had to do something more. I was recommended the VenEffect Anti-aging Lip Treatment and it helped. Or maybe I was just looking for a reason to buy an anti-aging lip product…
  • This cold is no joke on my skin. Redness from the freezing cold. Dryness from the heated indoors. Discomfort all around. Hydration, nourishment, oils, heavy creams. Thank you Kantic Brightening moisture mask (which I slept in twice this week), Kantic+ Intensely nourishing cream, and Vintner’s Daughter facial oil.

Stay warm. Build a fire if you can. Have a hot toddy. Hug someone. And have a great weekend!